First you need to know that The Childless Stepmom is ME, not my purpose. I seek to reach all members in a blended family. Here’s why.
I originally created the “The Childless Stepmom” community to reach a little known sector of women who desperately could use the support – the childless stepmoms. I myself was a custodial childless stepmom and raised a child I did not create literally 100% of the time. Over time this blog and community grew into reaching everyone in a blended family and raising awareness about us. People in blended families are not few and far between and our issues are very real. I am here to share my own journey with you, and also to grow not only personally, but as a group. In order to do this, I need perspectives from everyone in a blended family. This is not just childless stepmoms….or biomoms…but also children who were / are in blended families (including adults who have a stepparent and can reflect on their experience from their childhood), teachers and therapists who work with blended families, single parents dealing with co-parenting in general and anyone else who can help us to see things from ALL angles, therefore humbling us in our role, and helping us become the best we can be.
I seek out all of these viewpoints specifically on my Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/childlessstepmoms and I encourage you to join. You can also connect to me from one central location: http://www.thechildlessstepmom.com While there are resources available for blended families, this is a whole new level. More and more all members of this family model are speaking out and I myself, am doing so without reserve, especially for the ever-growing number of childless stepmoms. We are a community of women who raise another man’s children but have no biological children of our own to draw experience from. We have endless amounts of studies, research, and advice available to us (in the form of general blended family concerns) that just doesn’t quite adequately fit our circumstance. This can leave us feeling unheard, unfulfilled and often times, only feeds our insecurities instead of helping us. There’s no real place for ‘our kind’ to voice our issues and find unbridled feedback that challenges us in a positive way. I’m out to change that. And although I am only in one very specific role, I’ve found a way to bring and hear concerns from all types of positions within this family type – NOT JUST THE CHILDLESS STEPMOM. In order to promote positive parenting and to beat those remarriage odds stacked up against us, I invite you to join the journey as well. Sharing with others has helped me grow tremendously. Personal experience is incredibly powerful. Here is mine.